How can you make up with your ex? How can you make them realize what you had was so great? This is your guide to healing your broken heart and making up.

The first thing you have to do is realize that whatever happen is both of your faults. If you cheated, they probably weren’t giving you what you needed so you looked elsewhere. Or you may not have been giving them what they needed so they cheated on you. Yes, the cheater is basically accountable for the cheating. The pure blame does not with the person who was cheated on. But the fault lies in both party’s laps.

Learning to forgive and forget is very important. True forgiveness means that you let go of all of the anger related to the incident. The incident must never be mentioned again. You must remember the past is the past and don’t let it cloud your relationship. You will never be able to truly make up unless you can do this.

You have to apologize if it is your fault. But simply saying “I’m sorry” is not enough if you end up doing it again. This is not fair or respectful to your partner. You have to commit to changing if you are going to say “I’m sorry”. Otherwise, you don’t mean it and you won’t get them back.

Be prepared to chase them a little bit. In order to make up you need to show them you are interested in making up, but that doesn’t mean stalking them or sending them hundreds of text messages. Don’t expect them to come forgive you right away just because you’ve sent out some signals that you are sorry. You need to put your heart on the line and your ego in check.

You may have to settle for something less than you wanted. It may be that they are only ready to be friends when you want a full fledged partner. It might take awhile to build that trust up again. Give them some space and time to get to know you again if trust is an issue. Eventually you will be able to make up if you accept what they are willing to offer you right now.

Finally, you have to know when to give up on trying to get them back strategy and heal your broken heart. At times the best thing to do is move on. If you are in the position where your partner is unable to forgive you you must be willing to let go and begin looking for new relationships. This may be the best thing to do even if it breaks your heart. Whatever went wrong in this relationship, your soul mate is still out there. Getting them back may stop you from meeting them!